There are things that are under our control, and things that aren’t. It is meaningless to feel strongly about things over which we have no control. That includes:
how people think and feel about us
the actual outcomes of our actions.
our own health and wealth.
Believing that you must do something, but at the same time that it is not within your power is a contradiction. That contradiction is the root cause of most emotional suffering
Do what you must, let happen what may resonate — Pierre Hadot, The Inner Citadel: The Meditations of Marcus Aurelius